OK, are you like me … struggling to figure out what to get your mother for Mother’s Day? As I write this article, I have been in two different stores thus far looking at Mother’s Day cards that go from mushy sappy — where you need an insulin shot to finish reading it — to crass, even crude, suggesting you are the worst child ever and mom only survived your growing up by imbibing in some form of alcoholic spirits. Do you remember when it was so easy? You took a piece of construction paper and a crayon and awkwardly printed, “I love you, Mom” and did some plaster casting of your hand or foot. Or you purchased yet another coffee mug declaring, “Best Mom.” Simple … to the point. Now the card industry, flower industry, jewelry industry and every restaurant in town is pushing you to prove your love for mom with some purchase.
Please don’t think I am anti-Mother’s Day. I am all for it. We need to celebrate moms, whether they are the women who gave us birth or were the mothering figures in our lives. This last year has been quite a challenge for families, but especially for those mothers in our lives. Many of these ladies had to keep working and become schoolteachers for their now home-schooled children. They still put meals on the table and took care of their household, all without some of the social interactions that were their normal release valves. We absolutely need to celebrate these wonder women in our lives who have so sacrificially given of themselves, but a $5 card, a bouquet of flowers, a lunch out and some bauble to place on a chain hardly seems fitting.
I am not saying ignore mom on this one day. I am saying we need to celebrate our moms and mothering figures who have nurtured and raised us to be the people we are every day. I love how Proverbs 31 describes these kinds of super women. It says, “Her children stand and bless her. Her husband praises her: “There are many virtuous and capable women in the world, but you surpass them all!” — Proverbs 31:28-29.
Even as I write this, I know that for some of us reading this, our own mothers were not a source of nurture and strength. Some of our moms deal with brokenness, addiction and other hurts that keep them from investing in the lives of their children. At the same time, I know women who have desperately wanted to be a mom, but health or other life circumstances have prevented this from happening. I am also sensitive to moms who have lost a child (or children) and the grief this season brings. In each of these cases, show an extra portion of compassion. Pray for wounded mothers because we are all in need of grace and forgiveness. And for those of us who had wonderful moms, give thanks and “stand up and bless her.” Happy Mother’s Day … Every Day!